What I talk about below is personal psychology 101.
Most people in everyday life want control of their life.
Indeed, which is a huge understatement. We all want more treatments for life and our way of life than we are able to seize.
When we get connected to life with others in ways that demands control, that very action forces others inside a direction they’d prefer never to go. That creates conflict. Conflict creates the blame game. The moment we start blaming somebody else is the same moment we don’t take our personal responsibility for your contribution to your conflict. In refusing our responsibility we surrender the only real control we’ve got; the sole control we’ve have, that’s, the control we’ve over your own responses – over ourselves. If we think we can easily control or have treatments for others we’re deluded.
The ‘internal locus of control’ (psychology term) suggests we have treating a great many things, by way of example, the way we respond to others and what choices we opt to initiate. By taking responsibility we take our control. By owning your contribution to conflict, but not taking theirs, you can apologise for you did wrong. Having an internal locus of control provides maximum treatments for our own lives.
The ‘external locus of control’, however, sees issues of conflict because other person’s problem. It’s the blame game – the overall game that gets us nowhere. By refusing for taking our responsibility we lose whatever control we might have in looking to control another person. Having an external locus of control will give you minimal treating your own life, plus it damages your relationships, because other medication is confused that explains why you will not own what took action now wrong.